How should I word my wedding invitations?

THE WORLD of wedding invitation etiquette can be tricky to navigate.

However, those old and fast rules have had to give way to the realities of modern life – and rightly so, too.

Although there are times when it’s only good and proper to be formal (and we do so like a bit of fancy formality here at The Little Paper Shop), not every family conforms to the norm – whatever that may be anyway.

In the past, it was relatively easy. An invitation would be extended from the bride’s family (or occasionally the bride and groom’s family if they were both footing the bill), requesting the pleasure of the company of…

But what happens when the bride’s parents are divorced? Or have remarried? Or the bride and groom have stumped up for the vast majority of the bill themselves?

With this in mind, we’ve put together a few top tips which we hope will put an end to your wording worries!

So here are some Little Paper Shop top tips for your wedding invitation wording…

What is the traditional wording used in wedding invitations?

If the bride’s parents are hosting, the traditional format would be:

Mr and Mrs Parents-Of-The-Bride

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Miss Bride-To-Be to Mr Groom-To-Be

If both sets of parents are hosting, you could use a variation on the above:

Mr & Mrs Parents-Of-The-Bride and Mr & Mrs Parents-Of-The-Groom request the pleasure of your company…

How should invitations be worded if the bride’s parents are divorced?    

Just use the following simple format:

Mr Father-Of-The-Bride and Mrs Mother-Of-The-Bride request the pleasure of your company at the wedding of their daughter Bride-To-Be to Mr Groom-To-Be at (give details of the wedding ceremony and reception).

How should invitations be worded if the bride’s parents have remarried?

Of course you could spell out everyone’s names to make sure all parties are included but, for the sake of space if nothing else, you could consider using a more informal option:

With their families, Mr Groom-To-Be and Miss Bride-To-Be request the pleasure of your company at their marriage.

What happens if the bride and groom are hosting the wedding?

The choice is yours. You could either follow the format above, or use the following:

Mr Groom-To-Be and Miss Bride-To-Be request the pleasure of your company at their marriage.

So what about those couples who want to throw out the rule book altogether and have a bit of fun?

We like this:

Oh my gosh! Cara and Sean are FINALLY getting married – and you’re invited to join in the party…

Or this:

We’re tying the knot, and we’d love you to be there!

You could even create your very own love story. In fact the only rule we’d ever insist on is that it’s completely up to you.

Here at The Little Paper Shop, we’ve seen every variation imaginable. From step parents to single parents and less formal weddings, we think that while rules are useful, sometimes they’re also made to be broken. That’s why, as part of our design service, we will also offer our guidance when it comes to wording.

Take a look at The Little Paper Shop’s Bespoke service –

We’re here to help you design your dream Bespoke Wedding Stationery and make something completely unique to you!


Lydia and Lee's wedding at Astbury Church near Congleton, Cheshire, followed by a reception at Alsager's Moat House Hotel.
Cute little flowergirl having her hair done ready for the Wedding Day
Newly married bride and groom enjoying their first kiss as man and wife